Can’t help it, I’m just rude!

This is the fourth article in my column ‘Destination Mindset’ which is being written about some people who want to change their mindset but cannot because they are too hardwired in their characteristics and nature that just take over them. So far, I have covered in this category, impulsiveness, short fuse anger and extremely self-centred human beings. Thank you, readers, for reaching out to me and sharing positive feedback. While these articles are all original content taken from life’s university and my experience across various countries in decades, what drives me is my own personal purpose. I deeply believe in being a passionate catalyst of positive change. We all chase mindsets professionally or personally. If this column is helping in any way, in that direction it just makes me very happy!

Some rude people have told me that they are rude because other people have stopped understanding any language. I have often met others who complain about rude people “Who the hell does he think he is??”. When I look around me, I feel that the pandemic has new competition. Being rude is the new virus which is spreading around so fast. It starts with auto drivers and cabbies and has started across any strata of society. The haves, the have nots, celebrities, gully boys, leaders, followers and even service providers. However, rudeness is hugely disliked by everyone. Rudeness is toxic and is highly stressful to others and yourself. If it’s a built-in trait in you, how do you control and emerge? Well, here are some tips-

Control your rudeness, for your own self

You become less accepted by others in your rudeness. No one likes to be around rude people. At work your team will just detest working with you and it will affect your productivity and theirs. You will have lesser friends, eventually they will desert you. This trait will affect your personal relationships and family life. Rudeness aggravates and spreads negative energy. It makes any space into an unpleasant one. Rude actions invite rude responses, arguments and then nastiness. Become conscious of your rudeness and be careful. But like anything that you want to do properly needs commitment, you first need to be determined to get rid of this hard wiring. Its best that you get help and have a rudeness control help buddy. But please don’t end up being rude to this person!

Stop being rude for better health and well being

As you must be aware, in today’s world where uncertainty and anxiety has become a normal way of life, health and wellbeing tops the list of human priorities. Health is not just physical health but mental too. Being rude harms your health and wellbeing but also of those you come in contact with. The first impact of being rude is that whatever you think, at the end of it all, it causes emotional disruption. Rudeness is contagious too. So, once you are rude it causes a domino effect, and they take it out on others. Being essentially rude makes you angry and stressed. And you know, stress is the biggest killer today with multiple side effect diseases that include high blood pressure, diabetes and many other ailments.

Small steps you can take immediately

In addition to creating awareness and self-control there are a few simple steps that you can take immediately to manage your rudeness. Start by first understanding empathy and practicing it. Put yourself in the shoes of the other person. Let others feel that you notice them and appreciate their presence and views. On the other hand, if someone is rude to you, bring this fact to their notice without tolerating their attitude hoping that they will change. If somehow you have been rude despite trying to control yourself, apologise immediately. Use help like exercising, meditation and yoga.

Finally, learn to be positive and smile more often!

‘Rudeness is the weak person’s imitation of strength’ Eric Hoffer

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Amitesh Banerjee
Amitesh is a seasoned positive integrated communications disruptor with several years of multi- country/multi- domain experience. He has worked for reputed organisations in senior leadership positions including JWT, ITC, New Zealand Dairy Board, Seychelles Marketing Board, Perfect Relations, Genesis BCW, Adfactors, Della Group, H+K Strategies among others. Amitesh is Senior Vice President of Beanstalk Asia- a leading Integrated Marketing Communications firm.

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