You have misunderstood the meaning of asking. There is a distinction between asking and asking for. This asking is not for a need, want or desire to be fulfilled. This asking is for the seeker who knows the answer exists and therefore, his questions.
There is not much of a difference between a question and its answer. The question exists because there is an answer. Between the question and the answer lies the seeker, even though the questions form the bridge between the seeker and the answers. It is difficult to conclude which came first, the question, the answer or the seeker. They exist and live all at the same time forming a seamless union of oneness. The question exists because its seeker exists. The answer exists because its question exists. There is not much of a difference between the question and its seeker. The seeker is the question himself. The question has come out of the seeker who has the answer within but he needs a question to trigger its response. Mathematically speaking, there is not much of a difference between the seeker and the answer he is looking for. He is the answer to the questions he has posed. The seeker is the answer himself. The answer lies deep within a seeker, just that he isn’t asking enough. He isn’t ready to deep dive. He wants somebody else to ask his questions. You ask when you presume that you don’t know. Most of the time, however, it is because you have forgotten the answers. You need to constantly be in enquiry mode to rediscover the truth you already know but have forgotten. It is buried deep within you by the piles of dust that your mind has been clouded by.
We often need the help of somebody else to uncloud the answers that already exist deep within. We have forgotten the answers and have even forgotten to ask the questions that will uncover those answers. Thankfully, a guru will ask you those questions on your behalf, the ones you have been ignoring thus far, claiming forgetfulness. A guru through his questions will trigger the process of your transformation. He will lead you to the answers you already know. He will connect you to your truth. You don’t need to seek answers from your guru. You only need to ask questions to him. The questions you ask will reflect back from him which will lead you to the answers you are seeking. The guru’s role is that of a reflector, his only job is to help you self-reflect or reflect yourself through him. A good reflector will do that rather effortlessly.
The difference between a teacher and a guru is that the teacher answers while the guru asks. The teacher becomes the guru the moment, he doesn’t feel the need to answer his student. The moment a teacher poses a question as an answer to the question his student asked, the teacher transforms into a guru. Our world is full of objects that we can see only with the help of light. If there is the absence of light in a room, nothing is visible to us. The guru is light. The object always existed. The light only made it visible, it didn’t create the object. As the light rays fall on the object, the object reflects light, which when received by our eyes, the objective becomes visible.
A good teacher is one who only asks and doesn’t answer. He should not give you the answers to your questions. When the answer to a question becomes the question, the answer becomes the question. If a teacher answers the questions a student asks, he is doing disservice to the student. An answer closes the topic. It ends the discussion and with it the discovery process. There is no further enquiry required. It makes the student feel, he now knows it. He becomes arrogant, one who thinks he knows all. His progress ends immediately. He is no longer a seeker, he becomes an object that can’t move any further. He is seeking light only to be the center of attention not because he is seeing something. He wants sunshine simply to put the spotlight on what he knows in front of others not because he wants to probe deeper with that light. His search ends, not because it needed to end, but because it got disrupted by the answer he got and accepted.
A good student wouldn’t be satisfied with the answer. In fact, he isn’t looking for the answers. A good student is constantly seeking, looking to probe deep with the light from his guru. He uses the torch of light not to project himself to the world. He is not looking to shine. He is looking to reflect further. He want to continue this journey of reflection, this continuous journey of asking till he is found, not because he is looking to find something.
When you are found, you cease to exist. The circuit is complete.