About 6 years ago, I was participating in a group learning activity. I contributed initially and then went quiet. The facilitator (let’s call her Ms. Seer, as she could see things that I could not) asked me why I had stopped engaging. I told her “I shared what I had to and I don’t have anything else of value to add”. It seemed to me the right approach to follow and the perfectly natural and respectful thing to do.
Ms. Seer gave me a wry smile and said “I want you to try something new.” She went on to explain how the next time I felt that I have nothing new or particularly valuable to offer, instead of staying quiet I should “Just participate”. “For what?” I asked. “Just for the sake of it” was her retort. It did not make any sense to me, but I trusted her as she was also my coach and had opened me to new experiences, so I promised to do just that.
Many times, since that day I have received the answer. Life is in the doing. Lived in the moment. In the arena. Not on the side-lines, waiting or wondering if I should jump in and participate. Wondering If I had something new or significant to add does not add up. There is only one way to find out if I have truly had something useful or meaningful to contribute. Often the contribution is not to others but to myself. My learning. My growth. Many a time, I later find out that I touched a life in ways I could not have imagined.
Clubhouse, the new voice only social media app reminded me of this lesson learnt. The first time I got an invite from a friend. “Hey Nikhil – I have an invite to Clubhouse and want you to join. 🙂 I added you using…..Here is the link!”
That one I ignored. “No time to waste on a new app, much to do in my new role” I told myself. The second invite came. This time I was tempted. But the resistance to change, the effort involved in learning how to navigate it and a host of other rational reasons (or maybe irrational) stopped me again. The third invite was a sign, I said to myself “Just jump in see what it’s all about.”
It’s truly been a wonderful learning experience. I have connected with friends. Met new people. Widened my perspective on a range of topics that I am interested in. I was participating. Just for the sake of it.
At 10.30 pm on a Saturday night after listening in on a great club house discussion I got what I thought was a great idea. “I should host a session and be the moderator”. Before I could talk myself out of it I did just that. I put my event out into the world. Calling anyone who was interested in ‘Life and leadership coaching – what it is? And what it isn’t?’
Excited and feeling proud of myself I went to sleep. The next morning the reality dawned on me. What if nobody’s shows up? How does one moderate a session? Are there any rules I need to know? What will I talk about for a full hour? These and many other questions sent me on a learning spree. As I read, listened and found answers to all these questions, I found my confidence growing.
I am happy to report that I have successfully hosted my first clubhouse room. I am more knowledgeable about ‘what coaching is’ and ‘is not’ myself. I met a bunch of my old friend and a few new ones. I know a bit more about how clubhouse works. I contributed to my own journey of learning and growth and hopefully in the process added a drop in the ocean for others.
My dream of being the two worlds of communication and coaching together in a meaningful and value additive way takes shape. Why? Simply because I participated. I invite you to try out this approach to life, join the club, step into the arena… Just for the sake of it.
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