Do you remember the last time that someone was rude to you? How did you feel? The truth is that its another negative mindset that undercuts your mental strength and derails a person. Rudeness drives most human beings out of their comfort zone to a zone of discomfort and also sometimes into the danger zone. When someone is rude to you, its almost like an assault. It can trip your mind into the fight or flight mode. Unknown to you get want to strike back and counter rudeness with your point of view in equally rude tunes. Rudeness often results in altercations, unnecessary arguments and anger flares. When it comes to their own selves, people are hyper sensitive and egoistic. Being rude is almost like waging a war.
According to the Collins Dictionary “When people are rude, they act in an impolite way toward other people or say impolite things about them”. Many of us do not realise this but often we are naturally rude. Others become rude over time based on their negative experiences, when they have been betrayed or let down relentlessly. When life has given them lemons and they have become bitter from inside. The eyes and your face actually show your inner feelings unknown to you. They say that the face is the screensaver of the mind! How do we get out of a rude mindset?
Self-realisation
The first step towards changing any mindset is self-realisation. But how do you know if you have a negative mindset especially a ‘Rude Mindset’? Most of us don’t realise that we have a mindset like this. However, anyone who has a rude mindset would have surely got some kind of feedback from people we are with. We don’t want to accept this feedback of course. The best way to make sure, is talk openly to your friends and family first to get unbiased feedback. If you have a rude mindset lurking in your sub conscious, be sure that they will tell you. Be sincere and make notes of this feedback. Once you decide that you want to evolve out of this mindset, you could request three people amongst your friends and family to monitor your progress and give you frank and real feedback.
Plotting your self-improvement plan
Real and positive change happens only when you are committed, dedicated and have the courage to pursue your change plan. Its more difficult to get rid of negative habits, leave alone transform out of a negative mindset. Identify why you are rude. Are you rude by nature or have a short fuse that sets off your rudeness quotient? Once you find answers to these questions for yourself, your self-improvement plan will focus on not acting rude or at least being mindful when you are rude. The reality is that most people who have an anger mindset also have a rude mindset. Help this change happen by starting to be calm. Do mind calming exercises like meditation and yoga. Go to the opposite side, start being nice and cordial. Make it a habit.
Be mindful of positive reactions
As you change your mindset and people experience the new you, be mindful of positive reactions. They really motivate. Your colleagues, family and friends align better and you get their support. They seek your company and loosen up. Build on their acceptance and bridge this connect for long and sustainable relationships. Build your evolved mindset to its next level. The ideal evolution from any negative mindset is to transform into an opposite mindset. So stop being rude and instead be cordial and pleasant. When your communication becomes positive to pleasant it gets received better rather than the effect you will get from a rude communication. It’s a worthwhile transformation.
Start your change journey with commitment and positivity. You will be delighted at the results a positive change can bring.
“Rudeness is the weak man’s imitation of strength.” Edmund Burke
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